Showing posts with label My dad. Show all posts
Showing posts with label My dad. Show all posts

Everything I think Haven is like

By Benjamin Golan

Benjamin was having a very hard time going to sleep the past two days, we being talking to him for the last hour or so trying to figure it out what’s going on in that little head and I think he finally broke it down.



The poor little boy misses his Vovo Celso! *Sign*  His lil heart is acheing and this won't be the first or the last time that I feel helpless =(

Seeing Vovo Fatima makes him think about Vovo Celso a lot. He is very upset to even think she’ll be living back to Brasil in August. He shared so many interesting things with me that I asked him to hang on while I grabbed my computer go register his ideas about heaven. Here they are:

Me: So Ben, tell me again what you just told me about heaven and vovo Celso so I can type it; ok?

Benjamin: Ok, I don’t remember all I said but I think I said Vovo Celso is in heaven having lots of fun, making new friends there because I’m sure that he is – I mean, having fun and making friends, you know???


I bet he can see outer space there too; because he is in the sky, and outer space is in the sky which is park of heaven and he is just so close to it right now! He is dead but you know – he is still alive in the Sky! He is with Jesus and God and having all kinds of fun and I hope he can write letters too.


I remember the day he left; he said goodbye to me, so I guess that is ok that he left. And you cried so much so dad took me to tia Dani’s house, because you were so sad. But you don’t have to be sad. It’s ok mom!


I miss him and I don’t understand why we just don’t get to see him and I don’t understand who I missed him going to heaven!?!!?!? How did he even got to fly all the way to the clouds and I missed it?

*pause*

B: When are we all going to die?

Me: Oh boy Benji – we reeeeeeally don’t want to talk about that! To die it’s not a bad think at all, but the people that don’t die with you just miss you very much – do you understand?

B: Yes

Me: So can we not talk OR think about this?

B: Yes. But can you still stay with me even after I sleep?

Me: I sure can love.

We kissed good night and just as I re-read this post and added the introduction to his words he was asleep!
Sweet dreams love of mine, this greatful mama is off to bed too!


Celebrating life


I got this orchid last year, the day my dad died. The flowers lasted 3 mos; the longest I ever had an orchid to stay flowered after it bloomed. Since December this same plant has a tinny little sprout and I was thinking it wouldn't ever come out, it kind of just froze in that stage.

Today I noticed that is actually is growing, it even has 2 leafs!
In 3 weeks it will be 1 year since my dad died. One year since I got that flower, and here after 1 year of being "dormant" new its coming from it.

I bet we'll have a flower on May 3rd. A flower not to remember his death but a flower to celebrate his life!
Dad was a happy man. Satisfied with the blessings that came his way. Always wished for little and would undress himself to give it to others in need.
Little but amazing times he had with my kids and wonderful memories we have.

Memories we need to celebrate and keep alive in the boys memories. That they may learn to live content like Vovo Celso was. Happy and kind.

I have a feeling I may need some good company this weekend in order to stay positive. I miss my father and all the goodness he always brought around. He would be so upset to see me sad, still I'm sure he understands how much I miss him and how much I wish he was around. He would tell me to stop and be strong. For him, for me, for the boys!

But all I ever wanted was to make him proud! So for that I will smile!

I stand on the promise that soon we will be together again.

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Dad's funeral

Was packed - no one really got a head count

Word: 2 Tim. 1

Himms: 361 - 375 - 141

My dad

My dad passed away last Friday May 2.
The pain is awful. I'm still learning how to cope with it...

I feel like that little girl on the movie "My girl" (Meu primeiro amor - in Portuguese) that looses her best friend.

I feel the bees.... =(

aweful - aweful

R.I.P. da - know you are loved!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAD!!!

My awesome dad is turning 53 today… =) **Happy birthday papa! **

I pray that God feel your life with another 53 healthy years and that we can be closer at least a few of them! =) I love you SO much!!!!


Also – a happy birthday to my friends Vinicius & Jonathas!!!! =)
And a late hug out to:
Kristen! 03(25)
Misael (04/01)
Fynn (04/02)
God bless you all!!! =)

an old post

I finally got around and got some time to blog. It’s being pretty crazy since I got back from Brasil. Elan was visiting, loads and loads of laundry and a whole lot of bunch of things to catch up with.

My last few days in Brasil I was in Sao Paulo at tia Ro & tio Paulo’s house. They TOTALLY spoiled me! It made much harder to come back home – it’s SO nice to be treated like a princess!
Tia Ro paid for all kinds off little treats, nails, pedicure, wax, all kinds of yummy snacks but my favorite was a 90 minutes full body massage *just AWESOME* – only a few hours before my flight!
Man! Life is good! =)
I know my mom and dad wouldn’t treat me like that if I lived in Brasil, but man! All I being thinking about lately is what can I do to move back! LOL

The flight back home was very smooth! I was so impressed how well the kids did the whole trip! They both slept most of the flight and even I got to have a few minutes of shut eye!
We got back home to all that snow you saw in the pictures a few days ago… It was nice because it melted very fast! So we got to enjoy the snow but also didn’t have it long enough to get sick of it! =)
Anyways, we are REALLY happy to be with daddy again! We all missed him SO bad! =)

Past Saturday Mike went with Dan to take Elan to Clmbs airport and I hanged out with Kristen. I had this major asthma attack – I have NOT had anything like that in YEARS! It was really scary! So this Monday I rushed out to the Doc to get an emergency inhaler (my was expired) and get my lungs working again! Especially if I have any intention of working out… I’ll totally need it!
We suspect it was just a “shock” from the 85 to the 25 degrees change… It may be allergies too and we’ll find that out soon – if it comes again!
I had a lot to drink that night, but I always drink wine and that NEVER bothered me before… I also had eggs and milk… but again; even thou these are very trigging foods they never bothered me before… still – our bodies change… and I’m getting older!

Huge WHOLE in my wallet – the inhaler alone (doe’s NOT have a generic version) costs 70 bucks!!! All the money I made last week doing studies is gone *sniff * sniff* =(

Oh yeah - I alsmot forgot:
HAPPY SAINT PAT’S DAY!!!

If 1 picture it’s worth a 1000 words….

….I’ll make into a 2300 words!!! =)
Benji and the cool train he got from Tuta & Ma - It makes a train sound, turns the light on and has REAL SMOKE!!!!
  
Noah always trying to reach for something - Benji & Tuta - best buddies!
 
 
 Cousins Victor, William, Augusto, Benji & Noah! They had a BLAST!
 And Tio Paulo made yummie homemade Pizza!!!!

 
 Noah enjoying the kiddy pool!!! 90 degrees!
 
  
 Benjis first birthday cake… it was also Victors 13th birthday… All Noah wanted was M&Ms
 
 
 Churrasquinho gostoso… - the best BBQ - My cousins Arthur, Sergio, Victor, uncle Paulo, my dad and Grandma
 
 
 Noah felt on theconcret andgot this big bump… - Me & Marianne
 
 
 My dad took Benjamin fishing- he LOVED IT!
 
 
 Benji & I at the ”Fish & Pay”
 
 
 ” Mommy, it’s too hard to catch a fish!” - After trying for hours without any success…
 Willy laied back and tok a nap!LOL
 
  
 Playing in the sand… =)
 
 
 Vovo boy & Vovo Girl with Benji
 
 
 
The kids absolutely love staying with my parents - so I get to go out a lot by myself! We were out all day last Monday, then we went out to “Mercearia Anos trinta” Yesterday and enjoyed a “rodizio” of Pizza… over 60 kinds of pizzas, salt and sweet ones… eat as much as you want to… the waitress bring them right into your table… Man!!!
I think I haven’t changed one dipper this past two weeks! =)))) Urru!!! hahahah
It’s really nice because all we have done is quality time together - nothing else!!!! =) (Tati - I now know what you were talking about!!!!)

Dani!!! Happy birthday!!! I called an left you a message!!! God Bless you and give you many more!!!
Also Happy birthday to Angela! Amy! Katia & Monica!!!! Love you girls!

Its being a week in Brasil...

A week an a half away from our home…

Now that Im done bitching and being frustrated i can share the good things about this trio so far…

Im not even close rested as I would like to be, last night both boys were up until like 3 am, but i guess I just need to rest when I have the chance and give them time to get adapted.

We got some good news – like dad is feeling like 75% better this past two days – he actually went out with Benjamin and played a lot with the boys…

Everytime my dad pops at the door Noah runs to him with wide open arms to hug him and to be held by Vovo boy .

Benjamin had a nice & long talk to dad tonite thruw the camera, he got to show dad all his new toys and games. He is actually playing with a real fishing poll from Vovo boy

Noah hasbeing fantastic when it comes to eat… he also has a few new words – he says

Pirah = Pirate

Tatau = tchau- bye in Portuguese.

I being eating like a pig! Heheh My mom – the one who said all the time over the phone how overweight Im and how much I need to control how much I eat… and ^Im gonna help you diet when u get here^ has being cooking me all kinds of yummie meals… My plates are always so big – you would figure I had nothing to eat in days… but we just eat all day long!!!

Angela – that DVD player was a life saver on the plane! Girl – I dont have words to thank you! I must get one of those when I get back!

M + K – the finger paint and markers mess free were also AWESOME

Dani – I being doing prayer request every service I get to go for Isaacs surgery, Im really sad Im not gonna be there for you guys… I really wish I was, but just keep your peace and faith that everything will go well because our Lord is in control!

Jennie – You were so guide by God when u sent me that e-mail about my dad, because those words have being what is getting me trought this bad weather… God bless ou for that!

Im pretty much done with LOST season 3 – and I ate yummie Mangos like them! LOL

I wasnt too impressed this season and Im getting a little confused…. oh well!

We already saw Tia Sandra, Guga, Kadu, Mariana, S. Rose + hubby, S. Emilia + hubby, most of the friends from chirch, Lis, Daiane, Tia Su, Tio Geroge, all boys and Ana…
She is giving birth at anytime now and no one is going with her - So I offer to go and Ana was so surprised! I cant wait to be able to witness another miracle!!! Baby girl Maria Eduarda should be here soon (EDD Jan 30) - Im just so trilled to be able to be a part of this!!!!

Ill try to post some pictures of the boys tomorrow. Things are defenetely getting better, Im much happier – so are the kids!

So it's raining again

I’m not sure why I’m so frustrated since I got here, I guess its because everything is being going on a diferent direction then what I expected – That is why we should have none… I got to remember this next time.

My dad is not doing very well, he is having way too many reactions from the chemo… he has so many sores in his mouth he cant eat – he is weak and barelly enjoyed the boys since we got here.


His cold freaks me out since his lungs are so debilitated…

My mom is always in function of someone or something else – she is great with the boys, always feedinthis house is g, bathing or changing them… She is also like amaid here…. serving and cleaning after people. This place is always full…

Claudia really upsets me – she thinks I have no consideration and I think the same about her. We being here for 4 days now and the house its being full everyday. I understand she wants to hang out with her boyfriend and Im totally ok with that, but all I seing so far is a very selfish person that has no consideration to anyone. Our parents – I mean forget about it…. if its not convinient for her she wont listen to them, and this is just really sad because I guess its the way she is and I never wanted to see it. She is generous – very much so. I mean she would undress herself to dress someone else – when I talk about selfish its beyond that matter…

Its not about material things – but things we do – or dont do in this case.

I really want some quiet time – let the boys have some time alone with my mom & dad – let them bond a little! Everytime my dad wants to do something with Benjamin there is always someone else involved!

Its freaking cold here – I have not seing any sun – and when we were getting ready to come here all people talked about was how hot and nice was in Brasil. Well, that is no true

Its cold and grey – and I miss my love… and I just had to vent a little…

Naked w/ boots, blue IC & my colegas! lol

Last Saturday night Dan, me & the kids went to KI. Who would think we would of have such a nice time? Very few people; a much cooler weather, we had a good time & Dang!!! That blue ice cream YUMMM…

Since then I’m craving that IC…

These week we enjoyed Dad & Grandpa all day long, then this afternoon while they hanged out with Mike P. we went to KI for an hour and so. After we headed to Simone’s house for a nice nice time! We had a “dinner” lunchoun, all the kids had the best time! Noah didn’t even care where I was, he wanted to play play play – there was so much toys there so both of my kids had a blast! =) Then I got home and

“Ahhhhh was at KI and didn’t get the Blue IC!”

My dear, how could I have done that???? Anyways…

My “Colegas” lol -It was a nice time today uh? We GOT to do it again! I loved our time scrapbooking last week but today was *very* good! =)

I have a ton of pictures to post, if I ever find the time – You’ll see them here…

Funny one:
- Benji really enjoys the song “Boots” from Laurie Berkner – and I just got him a pair of “frog” boots for $3.50!!!

We are also potty training – and for that to go easier on us I’ll take his diaper off during the day when it’s just him and I. So theirs is Benji – running in circles – stomping around as the song says – naked wearing his frog boots! =)

*Tomorrow we’ll take Benji to the Bengals game – since it’s a pre season and the weather is nice! I think he is going to love it! =)


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Please pray…
My dad has 5 spots (cancer) on his longs - He’ll start chemo again here soon. =(

Many blessings to count!

Dad went to the hospital a couple of weeks ago to prep to his surgery – supposed his colon cancer had spread to the liver and lungs! Anyways – after 3 positive tests his 4th one show nothing but “calcium accumulation” - Lets talk about a miracle?


And mom lost one for her jobs (we knew it wasn’t a permanent thing) and she got it back just a few days later – the same day dad went into the hospital.

Not a thousand Glories will be enough to thank our Lord! =)

Happy as a mom - sad as a daughter

I got hit by my first “Mommy, I love you” before bed time just a couple of nights ago… what an awesome treat for a mom!


In the other hand – as a daughter I just got hit by the news my dad has more cancer – liver this time – it’s the same as the colon what makes it bad (metastases) and he is having surgery as early as next week.
I want to go see him but I don’t want to leave Dan alone (we don’t have $ anyways) but I feel so guilt that he won’t be able to be with the kids!

Right now I feel very desinencuraged. Extra prayers, positive energy or whatever is that you do to my daddy and family =(
Thanks!


Later that day I wrote:
I wish my family & a few of my friends were closer too…


I’m very thankful for the neighbors we have in our community! There’s like 5 families that are just amazing people and good friends!

We hanged out last Saturday night, grilled out some dinner, had a fire, roasted marshmallows, smoked cigar and make some music, played “But Tarts” (I didn’t – I crashed before it but I heard it was fun!), the kids had a good time and it’s just a nice nice evening/night.

I wish a few of my friends were closer too

Lots of sad things

My dad ad chemo today and he’s not feeling very good (Later we found out it was because his permanent catheter was clogged – now it sort of resolved)


Someone racked on Claudia’s car – all thou we have to thank God she is ok, the car was parked and she was outside of it because she could of being hurt! But still now she has to deal with fixing it and lost the value blah, blah, blah! =(

I guess Carrie is not doing very well – she has the flu! (Get well soon Carrie!)
I’m making a list of how many words and how mane sentences Benjamin speaks and I was quite surprised! I’m still adding words to it as the day goes bye, when I listen to him but so far we got:

Words: 79 – I good portion of it only Dan and I understand – maybe about 40 of them
Sentences: 14

Noah is smiling often – especially when he sees Benji around! So exciting! He is getting very strong too. Enjoying the Mei Tai a lots too… as long as he is around people he is happy!

Interesting:
Have you noiced that most of my posts are blue? I guess I really like blue! In English you say “I’m blue” meaning sad - Funny because in portuguese when you want to say things are GREAT you say: Everything is BLUE! =)))

B-day @ the Y, Pool and up-dates!

Today we went to the Y for Grace’s Birthday party with the other brazilian families… it was such a nice time - we headed to the pool after we had cupcakes! (I used rainbow chips icing - hmmmm!) Oh Priscilla!!!! Why did you tell me about this? It’s delicious, I can’t stop eating!


Benji had the best time at the pool - I felt horrible because he got a blister from his swimming shoes =(

I did breastfeed Noah in the pool area, by the door, in the parking lot - everywhere! I want to get a group of moms to sit down in front of that Sandra’s office and breastfeed their babies!! - LOL!

Dad has chemo again tomorrow… we are afraid this time around he’ll feel even more sick. Hopefuly not! Patty also is going to have surgery on Monday. She’ll be off work for 2 months!

I forgot to post about this but last week Benji had food poisining - it was horrible… He never barfs - and it was just so sad to watch him. That’s one thing that you feel pretty bad about it ’cause there’s not much you can do to make them feel better!

He also dropped a whole thing of PINK nail polish in the middle of out living room carpet… I don’t have to mentioned that it didn’t come off! I wanted to cry!

We got Benji’s custome (??) for Haloween - It’s Pablo from Backyardigans and he is afraid of it! We being practicing around the house so he’ll be used to by then…

My brown eyes cried

…and they will cry even more as Claudia leaves tomorrow.


Talked to dad for a long while today… still feels pretty crap but at least we know more about it, I even got to smile and laugh some throughout the day Thursday.

He’ll need surgery for sure. I just want to move back there.
It was so amazing to feel how some of my friends are connected to me. Thanks Shannon for all the support, I haven’t answered but I got your awesome e-mail. Also another 2 people who doesn’t have access to this blog and are very special to me called (Dani & Beth) out o the blue to see how I was because they felt like there was something wrong…

I may even get to talk to Marcao (I saw you called – sorry missed it! Call back, please!)

-Thanks people. With the thoughts of all this getting worst it makes me feel a whole lot stronger knowing that I have you guys!
It’s surprising how not always comes from the same people the support you need/ want or expect. I’m just really happy I got it.
I TOTALLY have a brake down yesterday – out of control!

It’s way past 1AM and I have NO sign of being able to sleep and rest.

We ended up going to Linda’s house and going to the pool – it was such a perfect “cold” water… Ava was there; she is just getting too cute!!!
We also went to visit Julie’s new baby – What a gorgeous baby! –Welcome Alexa! =)

Benji’s new words:
“Touch down”
And my favorite of the week: “Outside” (Am I in trouble or what? – Soon it will be “Mom what are we doing today? And/or I’m bored!) OMG…

Tried hard to be a better mom today. I got to do even better tomorrow

Back from Brazil - what a trip!

Brazil was awesome, even thou I’m exhausted I would do it again! My parents and Dan got along very well ~ we had a great time, Busy Busy, but great!


- Wednesday We left home about 4 Am to CVG Airport, went to Miami for a 4 hours layover – after that we flied to Sao Paulo, got in the Airport about Midnight, and my Grandma was there with Aunt Sandra, Pedro, Ariela and my Aunt Marisa. ~Dan almost went to jail for not paying a box of matches $0.30 – very funny! We hanged out there that night

- Thursday Our plane to Curitiba was very late so we didn’t get there until like 10 am, got home so tired, we had lunch and slept for the rest of the day. Mom was waiting for us with a key lime pie; she cooked lunch and dinner ~ very good! It’s so nice to see mom and dad, I miss them so bad. At night Gabriel, Julio & Andrea came to visit with us, he is just about Benjamin’s size but doing other stuff, Benji almost walk, claps and does “so big” while Gaby waves bye-bye and it’s like very hyper and biting everyone. I think he learned too because since he’s being biting everyone and everything.

- Friday The time changing got up to our brains – we can’t sleep until 2 am then next day we can’t wake up until Noon! So again we didn’t do anything, but we had people over later that day. We met Nicolas – sooo cute and sweet – Thiago and Dan had lots of Fun trying to communicate, I think! Hehheeh And Katia – of course looks great!

We took Dan to Wal-Mart, to “Barriga” Mall and just a quick drive to the park – It’s being rainy for two days now, which has kept us home as well the guests.

- Saturday We woke up at Noon again and went for a hair cut, I had my nails done as well my wax… it feels great. =)

For lunch we went to BATEL GRILL for churrasco– it was very delicious, and we had to rush back home to see Wanda that was waiting with most of her family to see Dan, after they left we barely had time to get dressed for church – it was really nice! “Daniel’s God is the Best”~Amen.

For dinner Dan tried Brazilian style Pizza, with Catupiry… About 11 pm Erika, Paulo, Ariane and Carol came over, we talked until about 3 am, it was very nice to see them! Oh how much I miss my friends!

- Sunday A supposed quick stop at Tia Sueli’s house became lunch; we had a homemade Churrasco, Ana was there and it was very nice to see her… The food was good and it was a very nice time. Dad stopped by for us to see the lot we are thinking about investing on and after that we drove to Sao Paulo – to Tia Sandra’s house; didn’t get there until 10 pm. In the way we saw a fire going up to the forest… It was a great time driving with my parents, like in the “old times”, brought me back a lot of memories.

Dan was anxious to hear the score and the Bengals made us proud again! They are going great – Actually they are first in their division! ~ Claudia went to the game instead of Dan and she said the game was good & a lot of rain too.

- Monday Tio Luiz made Feijoada! Hmm – it was very good and we had dinner at Tia Rosangela’s house – Tio Paulo cooked my favorite Eggplant rice – it sounds gross but it’s delicious! The Boys and Dan got a long very well. I had a blast watching them! Speaking in English and playing, I think Dan left there with a Migraine. Mom and Dad left ~ it’s already getting sad… It’s getting harder and harder to leave them the first couple of times.

- Tuesday Dan took a Metro ride with us to Tatuape Mall, also we went for a tour at my Grandma’s old house and stopped by Tio Carlo’s Pharmacy. I went to church in Bras with Grandma and Tia Marisa, but we got there almost at the end but it was worth it. Basically everyone came to the airport to say bye. Gigio was also there, he was coming to Miami to work.

- Wednesday We are back home, I believe we all had a great time – resuming our trip it was very delicious and a lot of people – that was basic it! Meeting people and eating their food eheh. Benjamin was great at all the times and I got the opportunity to see my dear family that I miss so much again. Dan thinks I have a BIG FAT GREEK BRAZILLIAN FAMILY! J And guess what? He is right! And I love them!

Hopefully next time Dan will get to see more of ! ~Pictures to come soon right here.