What kind of mother are you?

Not always we know what to do as mothers. Sometimes we feel we are too hard, or too soft – sometimes we find ourselves doing that one thing our mamas did we always said we wouldn't do the same.

Not always we know what's the best way to go – or to correct a problem. Not always we know if we are teaching too much or wonder if they are eating enough vegetable.

Now the one thing the human being it great at doing it labeling and judging. It's a great quality we all have and yet don't use it wisely.

I would bet millions of dollars that Everyone – I mean EVERYONE out there at some point in life looked at a child with a runny nose and didn't think “Oh MY kids will NEVER walk around with a snotted nose”

or when you saw a mother correcting they child you thought “Oh boy, she is such mean mother, I'm never yelling at my kids like that – communication is the best way and kids need limit.” or a

“She has no control over her kids”

and the list goes on and on....

Truth is that for other kids also you can be strong and keep your word – but when it come to your own kids... “aww they are suffering” or “look at those eyes”... and we just give in. Either that or we just don't want to deal with it do we also give in! =oP

Bottom line is that we ALL did and still after you had had your kids and you KNOW by living it it's NOT as easy as it sounds we still do it. All the time.

I sure don't know many things but there is one thing that I know well. And that is the kind of mother I DO NOT want to be. And the kind of kids I DO NOT want to have.

Having the control and power to do that (have or not have – be or not be) is a whole other story.
But I'm working towards it and I have found its harder than it looks but also it's all about keeping your mind in place and not loosing focus!
Writing is being a great tool for me. Finding out WHAT it is that I feel – and finding out WHY is that I'm feeling that way – what can I do to fix it before I loose my mind! =)

After all - I do wanna be a good mama – who doesn't???

We also need to understand and accept 2 things.
1.we are our worst judges (does that make sense?)
2.some mistakes are inevitable and that is just how we learn.

As for this week my focus will be on the volume of my voice. Not yelling. Time to do a little bit of “get out of your butt” parenting. And that won't hurt anyone! =)

I will report here soon! Hopefully with good results.